When Loving You Is Wrong
So I was just sitting here thinking to myself is it wrong to want to love yourself? Is there a real reason why so many people have so much self-hate within themselves that they reflect it in their every day lives? Do we give too much credit to others for problems that happen in our lives or the outlook that we have for our own lives? When did it become wrong to be selfish?
Breaking down each of those questions I found myself literally coming up with the following: there is nothing wrong with loving yourself but you have to also give an equal amount of love to others. Take for instance the self-hate question. There are many people who struggle with mental and emotional issues daily. Those people have been through an array of issues in their lives, some going back to their childhood. There could’ve been mental, emotional or physical abuse, bullied, sexually abused or the result of child neglect. Everyone deals with issues that occur in their lives in different ways. So they may not have ever learned how to love themselves because of someone else interfering in the growth of their love for themselves. To all who suffer from self-hate, my prayers are with you and you are loved.
Next: giving credit to others for problems with your development. In my opinion, it goes back to self-love. We as humans are not going to allow ourselves to be in situations that are compromising. Keyword: allow. It’s understandable that people can come into our lives and create havoc. It’s understandable that family members may be toxic. It’s also understandable that relationships are not perfect. What’s not understandable is when you have removed those people or those influences out of your life and it still has an affect on your life. If life has thrown situations at you that are completely unavoidable, then I understand why others are to blame. What I don’t understand is when people constantly live in their past hurt as if it’s a comfort zone. Like your ex best friend that lives in another state, that you don’t see, but he/she is still apart of your daily conversation. That person has moved on with their lives, created families and businesses, and you are still stuck on how he/she stole something or said something about you over 30 years ago that you didn’t like. Yeah, THAT. Stop it.
Lastly, there is nothing wrong with being selfish. Well, let me jump back for a moment. There are some people that walk this earth that don’t give a damn about no other human on this planet outside of themselves. Those people have self-love down to a science. Unfortunately, there is nothing wrong with it. We have to learn how to respect others fully, not just partially. Really there’s nothing wrong with loving yourself. We have to remember to love and care for ourselves in order for us to continue to love and care for others. Basically, I love you and I love me too. And there is nothing wrong with that at all. I hope everyone stays safe and get some comedy in your system. Remember to smile and laugh as often as you can. The world may seem a scary place at this moment, but it’s getting better. Just remember to breathe, smile, laugh, and be grateful for every moment you have.
