Always Starting Problems
“I have a hard time arguing with stupid people.”
Why do people start arguments? I’m just curious to know that. I don’t like being confrontational at all. I feel like it’s a waste of time to confront someone regarding an offense they’ve committed towards you. Don’t get me wrong; I engage people when provoked. Still, I’m not the type of person who can conjure up imaginary issues and start an argument from there.
I say this because I listened to The Bert Show a few weeks back. I heard the voice of a caller who wanted to start an argument to keep her significant other from wanting to go out with her. The woman stated that she’s unhappy with her relationship and will end it through a divorce. She was ready to get a jumpstart on being single and living a single life. Basically, the woman wanted to pretend that she was single to flirt with someone she knew. Now, as a listener, my brain started ringing alarms because I couldn’t believe what I was hearing. I have always heard of people starting arguments. Still, I never heard someone openly admitting to wanting to start a fight to keep their significant other from wanting to go with them.
At first, I laughed. To be honest, listening to the caller’s issue had me laughing very hard. I could not wrap my mind nor imagine myself going to the extremes that this caller was willing to go through just to pretend to be single. It was very laughable and sad all rolled into one. It also opens my eyes to how some people do not value relationships. In my eyes, if she feels like her relationship is on the brink of divorce, then she should have told her husband how she felt. Don’t go out and pretend as if you’re single for you to meet someone before you end the relationship with the person you are legally tied to. It doesn’t matter if you’ve been married a couple of minutes, a couple of years, or a couple of decades. You have to have enough respect for yourself not to bring a new person into your potential drama.
And I say potential drama because sometimes people can part ways and not really care about what extracurricular activities the other is doing. And there are moments when the significant other is blindsided and wants to fix what’s broken. But pretending to be single when you’re married? That sounds like a headache waiting to happen.
So this is my two cents and a sprinkle of advice: what I heard from that caller hurt my brain. It makes no sense to drag on a relationship you do not want anymore. Remove yourself from the situation if it’s that bad, but don’t cheat. My advice is logical but may be foolish to many people who regularly cheat. So let me offer up some advice to cheaters who don’t care: learn to manage reality vs. fiction. You may have the right to do as you please in your mind, but you will never know if the decision that you’re making can cost you more than a few hours of pleasure. It may cost you your livelihood. It can cost you everything that you’ve worked for simply because of the fact that someone looks irresistible to you. Learn how to resist the urge until the ink is dry on the documents. Then when you’re free, have at it. Go and have as many people as you want to have in your life. But start thinking about what the outcome could be for your future. Don’t let temporary distractions ruin your future.